People arouse these attachments and aversions in us much more
powerfully than, say, food or scenery. Nevertheless, of course, we should
accept calmly whatever is.
This practice is particularly important, certainly, when it comes to
anything that affects us, especially: pain and pleasure, for example; pleasant
and unpleasant experiences; and any experience that affects our bodies or
our minds. Sickness, usually, causes some mental suffering. Learn to accept
with an even mind whatever comes into your life, by giving it to God.
I have long made it a practice never to pray for myself, and never to
defend myself. Why should I ask for anything different from what God
gives me? I don’t say, “Never pray for yourself.” But I do say, the more you
renounce this thought, “I,” the happier you’ll be. The pain I had felt that
Sunday morning when I had a kidney stone attack was suddenly replaced
by a joy so intense that I could hardly give the worship service anyway;
though, through tears of joy, I did give it.
One or two years ago I dreamed that enemies of mine tried to burn me
at the stake. I accepted what they were doing, and thought, “The pain will
only last a little while.” As can happen in dreams, they then sat down at a
banquet table nearby, and, with laughter and much rejoicing, toasted one
another and enjoyed a grand feast. I didn’t resent their doing so.
At that point, friends of mine came and released me, thereby saving my
life. I was as indifferent to the fact that I’d been saved as I had been to
being tortured at the stake. I was grateful, when I awakened, to find that
even in my dreams I had been able to remain even-minded under what
would be, for anyone, an extreme ordeal.
Learn, then, to be even-minded under all circumstances. When good
fortune comes, accept it—I won’t say indifferently, but with a calm, grateful
thought to God. And when ill fortune swoops down upon you, accept it,
again, with a calm, grateful thought to God, as something that has come
from Him. In this way, whatever experience comes to you will only
increase your inner joy.
As for the last of these obstacles, attachment to the physical body, it is,
of course, an all-but-universal delusion, but it is also a universally
recognized fact that we cannot live forever. Indeed, the reason people reject
physical death is that they know, in their souls, that their actual demise is an
impossibility: they most certainly will live forever. They are confused,
however, because their minds confuse life with their physical bodies.